(Kingsley Okonkwo. Photo by Premuim Times)
After expressing his opinions on how women should approach relationships, well-known Nigerian relationship expert and pastor Kingsley Okonkwo sparked a lot of backlash on social media.
Nigerians’ reactions to his statement, which has since gone viral, are divided; many passionately disagree, while others firmly agree.
The pastor’s advice to women to be more receptive to persons who genuinely exhibit interest in them rather of concentrating solely on their preferences gained traction after a screenshot of the verified post appeared on social media.
“As a lady, you don’t choose who you want, you choose from who wants you,” said Kingsley Okonkwo.
Thus, begin responding to those direct messages, chats, and phone calls.
Relationship advice splits social media users
Many people debated whether the advise reflected the realities of current dating or reinforced antiquated relationship standards after the article immediately gained traction on a number of platforms.
Some respondents claimed that women should never feel under pressure to accept approaches from persons they are not attracted to, while others contended that a healthy relationship should always be built on shared interest.
The topic also rekindled conversations about dating standards, compatibility and the significance of combining personal preferences with real affection from a possible spouse.
Nigerians share mixed attitudes
Social media users swarmed comment sections with contrasting viewpoints as the post spread online.
Supporters said that relationships frequently flourish when both parties are genuinely interested in one another, characterizing the advise as sensible.
However, detractors contended that rather than only choose from those who show interest, everyone has the ability to select a companion based on personal desire.
Many Nigerians are using their personal experiences to bolster their opinions on dating, relationships, and selecting a life partner in the ongoing online debate.
As a lady you don’t choose who you want , you choose from who wants you
So start answering those dms, reply the chats and pick those calls.
— kingsley okonkwo (@kingsleypst) July 2, 2026